Respect In Relationship – 7 Ways To Gain It

Respect in relationship is accepting the differences of one another no matter what it takes. Underestimating each one’s capabilities and limitations is not RESPECT at all. Love without respect is useless. Love and respect go hand in hand as one cannot exist without the other. Really, how much do you love someone as much as you respect him?

Part of going into the process of the relationship is to see the real persona of each other on the best and worse times. You will both discover what are your flaws, bad habits and even your immaturities. More so, flaws are part of married life, and the ability to accept those are opening doors for respect. Just be careful of being comfortable with knowing each other because you never know disrespect is becoming part of the relationship; be aware of it! Truly, it is always best to earn respect from each other as love will never cease to grow.

1. Be the person you are

Being real gives an indication to your partner that you are sincere with your words and actions. Never give your partner any reason to doubt your genuineness so always learn to be real. As such, it allows for the respect to arise.

2.  Respect begets respect

Learn to gain respect within yourself and you can then respect others. The ability to respect yourself should be coming from what is inside of you. You cannot expect your partner to respect you when you are not worthy to be respected as a person. Think of your acts.

3. Be proactive in the relationship; take your part

It is always two to tango, and so working together towards the betterment of the relationship is far better than only ONE is doing everything to keep it. Two parties have to be involved on either saving or reaching out the damaged relationship. Always show to your partner that you have always been there through the good and bad times. Respect will be out of the picture when you are always passive.

4. Be attractive

This doesn’t mean that you will be wearing fascinating clothes and heavy make-up. Make him/her feel that you have never changed, that you are still the person he/she loved and cared for. So, when you were sweet, witty and respectful as ever, make him feel that you are still the same.

5. Learn to be self-determining and be TRUE

To be independent means you have the capacity to deal with things on your own. Most partners respect those who can stand with their decisions

Honesty is also an important tool to earn someone’s respect. It is with honesty that you are able to share all your views, opinions, feelings and sentiments to your partner which in turn giving him the respect you have always been desiring.

6. Do what makes you happy

Relationship doesn’t mean that you have to be overly dependent and clingy to your partner all the time, as when you does, you will not have his respect. Make time for yourself, to enjoy the life in you and to always try to be the best for yourself and to your partner.

7. Listen

One important for an effective communication is listening as it helps you gather significant thoughts and feelings from your parter and vice versa. It is not all the time that you talk over an argument, it is also best to listen to your partner, his or her views and opinions so that the process of communication is followed and at the same time your partner appreciates you for respecting him or her through listening.

The respect in relationship is not only applied to a couple but it is also applied to your friends, family, and others. We can actually find respect anywhere in the world but it can only be felt by persons who have been reverential and are worthy of respect. More so, it is because of respect that there exist a good and lasting relationship. It not just simply saying that you respect; it is more like putting it into practice. It has to be understood that in going through the process of the relationship, respect can be learned which takes time. Indeed, planting respect in life can make you better and wiser as a person.

Happy Mother's Day!

For over a week now, I have been fostering a mother cat with her four kittens from the Sonsini shelter. I have been amazed by the patience, the commitment, focus, as well as the clear boundaries that “mama” has for her 4 kittens. She seems to always keep an eye out for her family, even though at times she looks truly exhausted and all she wants to do is sleep.

She will let them play with her tail, climb all over her, and let them nurse. At other times, she will walk away, clearly indicating that she is no longer available. She will climb on high places where she cannot be reached, and after a few meows of protest, the babies will move on and begin to play with each other, eat, or go to sleep.

Unlike cats, we human beings will take 25 years to have a fully developed adult brain. In both cases though, a lot happens in the earlier years in fact, everything happens for us in the first 7 years of our life when it comes down to attachment, how we form our sense of self, and how we relate to the world.

A few years ago, Dan and I, fostered girls and learned a great deal about the “lack of mothering,” and the impact that it has on all levels (physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual). I saw in “full action” through teenage “acting out,” the difficulty that these girls were facing in establishing a basic healthy relationship to their body, themselves, and others, that was respectful, self-caring, and nurturing. It led me to read and educate myself on the concepts of attachment disorders, and how to re-build the bond. I came to believe that it is possible to begin a new kind of mothering (with the help of current healthy relationships with others), and to mend the broken heart with patience.

All self-abandonment is a reflection of the abandonment that we suffered. When I work with women and their food issues or self-esteem issues, I support them in believing that they truly can have what they want in career and life. I help them bridge the gap between what has been missing and what is needed to supplement for that internal support. This situation is very close to me and I can only teach what I have learned. At age 8, I was placed in a foster home with my brother (which was then followed by two others), until I decided to live onmy own when I was 16 years old.

Love Advice – Soulmates

‘How do you determine if someone is actually your soulmate?’

Determining if someone is your soulmate is not an intellectual exercise. It is a knowing and you know quickly. You know in the first meeting, the second meeting and the third meeting. It’s a yes, it’s a yes, it’s a yes. What we often do is we meet a good person and there’s a lot of good people out there for us. And we fall into a relationship and it’s good. You know, it’s trying. It’s you know a maybe. It’s I’ve got a pro list and a con list. If you have you had to go through your pro list and your con list that is not your soulmate!

Good people for us do not make the right match. For it to be your soulmate, it has to be a match. And how do you know if it is a match? Well, you have to know your own soul and who you are as a person. Who are you authentically? Who you are in love? Who are you intellectually? Who are you as a spirit? Who are you physically? When you know that, you know your soul. And it’s so much easier to identify your soulmate. It’s much clearer. And as I said, it’s instant. This knowing is instantaneous.

You feel at ease. You feel comfortable. You feel like you can share your soul with that person. And it doesn’t feel hard. It doesn’t feel like a strain. It doesn’t feel like there’s all this tension. Be aware it’s not about physical chemistry. Physical chemistry is included but that’s not the knowing. It’s not like wow! I’m really attracted to this person sexually. No, it’s not about that. It’s like wow! This person and I truly know each other. We know each other. It’s a hit. It’s amazing and we’re going to keep growing and growing and having more fun and more fun.

So, I encourage you to know your own soul. That way you can identify your soulmate. Move from that good person to a true match that is your soulmate and really focus on knowing. Knowing in the first, second and third time that you meet, that this is your soulmate.

And I have two ways for you to connect to your soulmate right now. One of them is, if you’re looking for your soulmate, go to Sacred Love Dating on and fill out a profile so you can get started right away.

And if you have already found your soulmate, go to Couples Connection on and start connecting in more fun, in more fulfilling intimate ways today.